I’m home sick today. Head cold, I could manage but my throat is so sore. I have the biggest speaking engagement of my career on Thursday so resting my vocal chords trying lots of home remedies to cure myself.
Part of my daily routine is to go on www.craigslist.org and search the local listing for free stuff. Cheap fun. Today I had a extra time so I browsed other categories, and came accross this in news.
The Accused Name Appeared Here ADULTERER (MOYOCK, NC)
DO NOT TRUST THIS MAN ALONE WITH YOUR WIFE. He had an adulterous affair with his friend who was my wife. This was his FRIEND She had just come out of a breast cancer operation and was still undergoing therapy She was drinking heavily at the time She had soooo much on her mind she was so easily lead, vulnerable, naive and so easy for him to get her into his bed by taking advantage of her need for acceptance after her mastectomy THIS P I G KNEW SHE WAS MARRIED. HAVING REPAIRABLE MARITAL PROBLEMS, HAD A FAMILY and INSTEAD OF TREATING HER LIKE A TRUE FRIEND HE HAD SEX WITH HER in every way imaginable. HE USED HER and ABUSED HER TRUST IN HIM AS A FRIEND. Ruined her marriage, family and destroyed her. HE IS IN HIS LATE 50’s, short, pudgy, long dark hair, stupid looking, egomaniac, has never been married and is a failure with single women HE CAN NOT BE TRUSTED WITH A MARRIED WOMAN. DO NOT LEAVE HIM ALONE WITH YOUR WIFE HE DESTROYED MINE. She will never be the same. She is sad every day. Feels foolish,embarrassed and DIRTY EVERY DAY FOR LETTING The accused full name of MOYOCK USE HER at his COMPLETE ADDRESS home.
I get it this spouse is mad and hurt. His wife cheated on him and he’s venting. Listing the man’s name and address is a bit over the top and dangerous in my opinion. He rationalizes his wife’s infidelity on her illness. It’s possible. He never mentions his reaction to his wife’s double masectomy. He completely blames the “other man”.
I also find it interesting how he describes his wife’s or what may be soon to be his ex-wife’s demeanor. “She is sad every day. Feels foolish,embarrassed and DIRTY EVERY DAY” He emphasizes dirty. I wonder how dirty he (spouse) made her feel. It’s natural when you are hurt and betrayed to want the one’s that hurt you to feel the same emotions. We’re all human. But..(long sigh) what is this solving?
Cheating is wrong. Adultry is wrong. There are better ways to deal with bad situations. Often our reactions to bad situations will determine whether we come out victorious or not.
I’ve been cheated on and lied to. It hurts. It cuts deep. Have you ever watched “Snapped” ? Snapped is OXYGEN’S hit true crime series, it profiles the cases of women accused of murder. Revenge is often the motive. Who want’s to wind up on a true crime series? Who wants to spend their life in jail? Who wants to destroy their family in such a way. We need better coping skills men & women.
I’ve been with my husband for 20 years; we’ve been married for 7. The last time he cheated on me he got a girl pregnant. Oh the rage I felt. Oh what a blow to my ego. I thought all sorts of ungodly things. I remembered how my sister acted when her husband cheated, she went batty. She embarrassed herself, the family, marked her children for life and it didn’t change anything. I didn’t want to be that person.
I wanted to be like Hillary Clinton & Princess Diana. Deal with it in my home, on my terms and move on. So I ran to God. Best decision I ever made.
**side note I have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my step-daughter**
I’m praying for this couple. We have to forgive those that wrong us whether we choose to stay or go.
Revenge is glorified in the media, but it’s nothing heroic about doing prison time for murder. This is what the Bible says about revenge. Romans 12:19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.God will take care of justice. It may not be when we want it. It may not be how we want it. But He will make sure that justice is done.
Complete Physical Address was listed here. ( I don’t want to contribute to this mess so I’ve deleted it in the interest of privacy)
This policy is not a lack of justice. It is a call not to take personal revenge in order to get justice. Leave justice and revenge to God.
When you’re enduring a crisis it’s hard to see past your pain. But I am a living witness if you trust God and make up your mind to move on you can.